Linda has always been a modest woman. Never did anything wrong, and would be considered “frigid” when it came to sex. She is conservative and doesn’t like to try anything new, but this didn’t bother her fiancé, Ted. He would wish to do new things, but puts it on the back burner and tries to forget about it. Then one night, she wondered to his side of the bed, rolled him over and took charge. He was surprised by what possessed his frigid fiancé to be an animal, but he didn’t want to question her. They made love. The next morning while making their morning coffee and Ted hugged Linda from behind. He told her that she was amazing last night. She looked puzzled. He worried if he was somehow having a wet dream, but he was coherent enough to know that was his wife he was having sex with. She looked confused, and scared. He felt like he somehow betrayed his wife with someone else. What’s wrong?
Sleep sex or sexsomnia is a form of non-rapid eye movement (NREM) similar to sleepwalking that causes people to commit sexual acts while they are asleep. While people may think this type of behavior is humorous, in reality it can be disturbing, annoying, embarrassing and a potentially serious problem for some individuals and couples. The incidence of sexsomnia appears to be on the rise. Most experts attribute this to growing public awareness of the problem rather that an upsurge in actual incidence. There have been several widely reported incidents of sexual assault conducted while the perpetrator was allegedly asleep. This means that people are partially aroused from deep sleep, resulting in a "twilight sleep-wake state" where they unconsciously act, with seriously impaired judgment.
Sexsomnia isn’t just about intercourse though. It can be masturbation, oral, fondling. It can co-occur with other sleep disorder such as sleepwalking, sleep apnea, night terrors, and bedwetting.
It was hard to get a video to elaborate more about Sexsomnia, but it is hard to find without hitting the porn site of youtube. So I found this little webisode about a guy that is on a date and his date tells him that he was amazing, and he doesn't remember. Thinking it is a cop out so he can sleep with other girls… well you just have to see it.
It's a very interesting topic, I'm sure people who suffer from sexsomnia find themselves feeling ashamed or embarrassed. I wonder what leads to having sex sleep. Could be an imbalance? Sexual fantasies? Lack of Sex Drive in real life? All I read that it is triggered by physical contact with a bed partner... I saw a tv show where a guy was being accused of rape, but he couldn't recall the event because he was asleep when it occurred. Pretty scary for those who suffer from this disorder.
ReplyDeleteWhen i read about the lady masturbating in her sleep and waking up unaware of what had taken place while she slept. Then to make things worse she was thinking of all the times she had spent the nights at slumber parties and when she had invited her sister to spent the night. It just seemed to get worst for her as she tried to remember what might have happened and how embarrassed she was. I think is horrific to suffer from something like this.
ReplyDeleteFunny video, the fact that the condition sounds so farfetched it would cause skepticism with your sex partner or whoever as an excuse to do something you honestly can't help. I can see how worrisome it would be to find out as an adult that you have sexsomnia. To think back and wonder how many times it has happened without being aware and with who and wondering why they didn't say anything can stress anyone out.
ReplyDeleteYour topic was very interesting. It could be embarrassing for people with sexsomnia by not remembering what happened during their sleep. Can this disorder happen to them at any time as long as they are asleep or it happens only when they have somebody sleeping with them? I could imagine people with sexsomnia doing things that they can't remember to someone they would never be close to. It can be very stressful for someone who has knowledge of what they can do when they are asleep even though they cannot remember a thing of the occurrence.
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